Since you never say I love you it is important to show some type of affection. I mean how else will they know you love them. Affection should always come with a nice open handed smack across the face. If you really love them you will make it hurt. This way when they look at the bruise in the mirror and it will remind them of how deep your love for them really is. It will hopefully be similar to the same feeling a battered wife feels every time she looks in the mirror. Your child should say I know Daddy loves me because he smacks me in the face.